Why? You are clueless. What went wrong in the relationship? How can you save it? How can you get your ex back?
Of course, it is always best to prevent any relationship mishap. As medical professionals love to say, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure". But it is useless crying over spilled milk. What's done is done. What we need to do now is to find a way to get your ex back.
Getting your ex back requires a series of actions.
First, calm down. You were caught off-guard. You did not have any inkling that something is wrong with your relationship - that your girlfriend is no longer happy and is planning to dump you. You are in a state of shock and filled with mixed emotions. Calm down.
Second, think. What could have caused the break-up? Did your girlfriend find someone else? If yes, what attracted her to somebody else? Is your girlfriend unhappy with your sex life? Have you done something wrong? Were you misunderstood? Are you not communicating well? Did you forget any anniversaries? Is it money issue? Think and go back to the past especially moments when you had a fight.
Third, ask your ex. It is best if you can get your ex to talk and be honest with you. Make sure that you are able to handle the situation in a mature way. Tell her that you want to understand your mistakes and her being open to your failed relationship will help you process and move on. This mature talk is good for both you and your ex.
Fourth, process your thoughts and your conversation with your ex; be truthful and unbiased. This may be difficult for you but you need to face the truth to help you devise a solution to either get your ex back or move on.
Fifth, decide to proceed to get your ex back or move on. After a thorough investigation of past events in your relationship, decide if it is worthwhile to get your ex back or to move on. Do you still want her back? Are you willing to make some sacrifices? Are you willing to wait and be patient?
Sixth, take action. There are several proven ways to get your ex back and you are the best person to know what will work. Each and every break-up is unique; thus, requiring a unique solution.